Are you one of those people who freeze up when it comes time to deal with difficult issues?
Having difficult conversations is like asking some people to eat poison. They would rather avoid confrontations all together.
There have been times in my life I wish people would have just known what I was thinking. That way, I would not have to say anything to them about whatever was troubling me. Once I would finally get the nerve to say something it would not sound like I wanted it to, and I would feel just plain silly.
What I decided to do was to realize I was doing both that person and myself a disservice by not speaking up. They would assume our relationship was one place when it was actually another. I would be a hypocrite as a “friend” by not sharing what I really thought.
Those days are long gone, and I learned that I owed it to my friends, family and acquaintances to be honest and forthcoming in my dealings. Granted, when I first started this new found form of communication; I broke a lot of rules of engagement. I would say things at the wrong time and would feel horrible afterwards. I would quickly come under condemnation and would wrestle with that demon all night.
I kept reading the Bible and praying that God would help me to break free of things that seem to have me so bound, like fear and anxiety issues that would keep me from speaking up and out. I wanted to be at peace with “me.” I wanted to be at peace with everyone else and discover what it feel like to truly let love flow through me even when I had to confront someone in difficult times.
There is something so powerful in being transparent and authentic. It is the place many people wish they could move into and envy those who have. When we become transparent and authentic we open the windows of Heaven to meet us at the point of our need for peace and joy. The world begins to look at our lives through different lenses because our lives represent the one they wished for.
Who do you need to confront? What areas of your life do you think will change once you confront them? Are you willing to be laughed at? Are you prepared to be rejected? You may very well be, and that too is part of your being able to be free. You will finally learn what it mean to “Care Enough To Confront.”