803, 2018

Caring Enough To Confront

By |March 8th, 2018|Categories: Blog|0 Comments

Stone05Are you one of those people who freeze up when it comes time to deal with difficult issues?

Having difficult conversations is like asking some people to eat poison.  They would rather avoid confrontations all together.

There have been times in my life I wish people would have just known what I was thinking. That way, I would not have to say anything to them about whatever was troubling me. Once I would finally get the nerve to say something it would not sound like I wanted it to, and I would feel just plain silly.

What I decided to do was to realize I was doing both that person and myself a disservice by not speaking up. They would assume our relationship was one place when it was actually another. I would be a hypocrite as a “friend” by not sharing what I really thought.

Those days are long gone, and I learned that I owed it to my friends, family and acquaintances to be honest and forthcoming in my dealings.  Granted, when I first started this new found form of communication; I broke a lot of rules of engagement.  I would say things at the wrong time and would feel horrible afterwards. I would quickly come under condemnation and would wrestle with that demon all night.

I kept reading the Bible and praying that God would help me to break free of things that seem to have me so bound, like fear and anxiety issues that would keep me from speaking up and out.  I wanted to be at peace with “me.” I wanted to be at peace with everyone else and discover what it feel like to truly let love flow through me even when I had to confront someone in difficult times.

There is something so powerful in being transparent and authentic.  It is the place many people wish they could move into and envy those who have.  When we become transparent and authentic we open the windows of Heaven to meet us at the point of our need for peace and joy.  The world begins to look at our lives through different lenses because our lives represent the one they wished for.

Who do you need to confront? What areas of your life do you think will change once you confront them? Are you willing to be laughed at? Are you prepared to be rejected? You may very well be, and that too is part of your being able to be free. You will finally learn what it mean to “Care Enough To Confront.”

803, 2018

Paralyzed By Worry

By |March 8th, 2018|Categories: Blog|0 Comments

How many times have you stayed awake at night wondering about your future? The vision of all of the bad things that may happen kept you awake all night only to discover your worries were unfounded.

As a child of God, I can tell you that worry is one of the greatest stressors in life. It will destroy your dreams and keep you paralyzed. You find yourself not being able to make a decision because you are afraid something might happen. The truth is something is going to happen whether you move or not. The issue is what?

There is a story in the Bible of lepers who according to the law could not go into the city for they were considered unclean and needed to remain outside of the city for the protection of the people. They were isolated and alone. They had each other, but they were all in the same boat.

One day the city from which most of them had come was under attack. They knew if the city was destroyed there was no chance of them getting food. They were left outside of the city with no hope of life. Then the moment came, one of them had an “A-ha!” moment.

If we go into the city we might die, but if we remain here, we will surely die. They collectively decided they would take a chance on going into the city. Once they arrived there, they noticed that the enemies were gone and the was city was left open. There and there was plenty of food there for them.

The moral of the story is; if you stay where you are, what will your future look like? If you pushed past your paralysis of analysis, fear, and anxiety you might reach your destiny.

Remember what you learned as a child? “You will never know until you try.”

You will never know until you MOVE!

Love, DrFaye



803, 2018

My Big Mouth

By |March 8th, 2018|Categories: Blog|0 Comments

Power-of-Words-SeriesWhat happens when you say something you did not mean to say?  How many times have you said something to later regret?

Every word we speak has meaning. There is literally no such thing as “empty words.”  The Bible teaches us that a man is snared by the words of his mouth (Proverbs 6:2).  What we say can trap, bind and slay us.  What we say can either help us get a position or destroy ever opportunity for promotion .

big-tongue-copy11Words matter.

Life and death are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21).  Blessings and cursing are created by the words we speak (James 3:10). The words we speak are the creative force which directs our path in life.

There is no such thing as “joking” about one’s life. The enemy of the mind hears those words and uses them aganist us. Anyone who doubts this is certainly caught in the great web of deception in “Opening Their Big Mouth!”

The power of our words is not a new thought. It has been around since the beginning of time. When God created the Heavens and the Earth; He spoke them into existence.  The Bible teaches us that the worlds were formed by the Word of God. This my friends, is our pattern. When we speak our “world” is formed. The everyday walking, waking, talking, living world is formed around us. We are powerful!

The thing we have to learn, is how to use this power for our good and not for our destruction.

Let’s begin with the book of James.

James Chapter 3 is a remarkable ancient text found in the Bible. I like reading the Bible it holds great wisdom and understanding  Anyone who has come acquainted with the Bible will understand the principals  I am about to outline here.

First let’s look at this scripture in James Chapter 3

Taming the Tongue

1My brethren, be not many masters, knowing that we shall receive the greater condemnation. 2For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body. 3Behold, we put bits in the horses’ mouths, that they may obey us; and we turn about their whole body. 4Behold also the ships, which though they be so great, and are driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with a very small helm, whithersoever the governor listeth. 5Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! 6And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. 7For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind: 8But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. 9Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. 10Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. 11Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter? 12Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh.

Translated into 21st Century English

The tongue is wild and unruly and anyone who can tame it is genius.  The tongue guides are life like the rudder on ship it will take us places we may not want to go. We must be careful what we say or we will end up someplace we do not want to be.

If we use our tongue to build our lives, our tongue will be the instrument to assist us is building our destiny and purpose.

James seems to have a revelation on the tongue and its power. Since God spoke the worlds into existence we can begin today to speak the world we want into existence.

What are you saying about your life? What are you speaking over others? Do you speak negative words about your life? Think about the results you are getting.

You are truly having what you say.
Mark 11:22 -24

 22 “Have faith in God,” Jesus answered. 23 “Trulya] I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them. 24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

Stay-Positive-If you don’t like what you are having, change what you are saying.

Shutting your BIG mouth is not safe. Changing what you say is.

Start practicing positive words over your life and over others. Always speak what you want and not what you don’t want.

Your life will begin to take on the shape God intended for it to.

Understand the power of your words and begin to use them daily to transform your life one positive word at a time.

True Wisdom from Above

13Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. 14But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. 15This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish. 16For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. 17But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. 18And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.

When we are speaking words of peace and comfort to ourselves we can do the same for others. Remember this, we cannot give away what we do not possess.  We must become responsible citizens of our own words. Executing goodness everywhere at all times.

We can change our world with our words.  When we open our mouths to speak let it be because we truly have something amazing coming out of it.

803, 2018

Tech Addiction

By |March 8th, 2018|Categories: Blog|0 Comments

Smartphone06Tech addiction has become more of an epidemic than initially thought.

Although the internet was intended to make us more interconnected; we have since discovered it is also having “disconnected” us from our unique ability to communicate with our family and friends.

While smart phones, tablets, and laptops are convenient and are a necessity to our daily lives; we have become so attached until now our devices have become our drug of choice.

Now, before you stop reading this; here me out.

How many people do you know who are still around who do not have a cell phone? Even the government has made a cell phone available for individuals on fixed income.  Cell phone in some cases are the only phone many people have access to. The home phone has become like the dinosaur; extinct.

Take a walk through the mall or go to a restaurant or any public place for that matter, and you will see what I mean. People are on their cell phones.  Couples are sitting across from each other looking at their phones.

Technology has completely taken over our lives. We have learned to depend on a device for walking, talking, entertainment, directions, instructions, communications of every kind and yet, we still have not realized how far we have grown from the direct conversation and communication with human beings.

We are created to stay connected with other people. We are created to have face to face conversations whenever possible; technology has replaced that.

I have been a featured guest on many radio and television talk shows sharing my thoughts and insights on the subject of Tech Addiction and find that many people found it to be refreshing to talk about the obvious.

Families of the 20th Century struggle with having dinner at the dinner table. Families in the 21st Century struggle with trying to locate each other in the same house.

How do we get back to human touch? How do we revive relationships lost in the digits?

Plan A Tech Fast

Choose a day to cut off the cell phone and stay off the internet when possible. Notice how your body feels. Take note on how your mind struggles to let it go. Push past the feelings and thoughts and get to the end of the fast. You will be glad you did.

Make Time with Someone; Their Time

Whatever you do unto the least of these; you do also unto me.  Treat the person you are with; with respect and let them know they are worth your undivided attention.  Parents on the phone never hear the child in need. Get off the phone and listen to your child.

When Possible Call Rather Than Text

A longtime friend sent me well wishes via a text message.   I called and ask them not to do that again. Why? Should I have been happy with a texted birthday wish? No, this person had known me too long. When we set boundaries in our lives, people will respect those boundaries. They apologized understood my position and we went on from there and our friendship is strong.

Decide On Your Mission and Stay with That Plan

God has a plan for your life and He wants to make you happy.

It is up to you to discover your purpose and do not allow tech addictions and tech distractions. It is up to you to decide to stay with your mission in life and use technology for its intention, and that is to help you connect with people and to get the job done.

Set Limitations for Your Children

The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests that children under the age of 2 years should not be exposed to any device. Their brains are still in development and should not be placed in a position to get connected to a device rather than a person.  Children 3-5 years no more 1 hour per day. Children 5 years and up 2 hours and teenagers no more than 4 hours per day.

Dangers of Tech Addiction

The dangers of Tech Addiction Are Isolation, inability to communicate; the development of abnormal behaviors when in social settings (no longer connecting to people you know well), spending more time with an imaginary friend rather than a “real” one. There are others, and I am sure you will manage to come up with your own.

Sound Advice

Use technology for its intended purpose to create an interconnectedness that will be beneficial for your family, friends and business.  Remember it is technology.







703, 2018

Living In The Present Moment

By |March 7th, 2018|Categories: Blog|0 Comments

93TrHave you ever thought about all of the things you think you missed in life? Are you one of those people who live life with a string of regrets? If this is you, than you want to continue to read this article.

Over the years I have counseled with men and women who feel their lives are not as wonderful on the inside as it appears on the outside. They live a life secretly wishing or wondering what would have happened “If.”  If they had gone to that school, or moved to that city, married or even married someone else.

When we live from a place of regret we never measure up to our own expectations thereby creating this vastness of “would’ve, could’ve or should’ves.”  God created us to be decision makers and co-creators.

It is difficult to appreciate the present moment when we are so depressed about our past decisions.

This article will address those “regrets” and assist you in becoming mobilized again to capture your true course and essence in life.

Turn Your Regrets Into Winning With Confidence Here 

First, think about the things you regret you have not done or the places you did not go.

List those things in the order of their importance to you.

Then review your list to see which of those things can still be done. For instance, a trip to New York when you were a teenager.  Think about how you could plan that trip now and take notes as to how you can still take such a trip. I know you will think but there may have been an opportunity there at the age of 16 that you do not have today.  This could very well be true, however it does not mean there are not other opportunities that are just as wonderful as the one you think you missed out on.

Perhaps you feel you married the wrong person, and you took your marriage vows seriously and want your marriage to work. Consider this: Think about all of the qualities you admire in the person you married which led to your decision to marry them.  List those qualities and see that person in the light of each of the positive attributes on your list.   When we focus on things that are good, lovely, just, pure and virtuous we began to experience what we are thinking about . Once you shift the way you see your spouse you shift your perception and your response to them.  This may require more work for some than others, but if you truly want your marriage to work; I am sure it will be well worth the effort.

As you continue to create this list be diligent and attentive to what you can do to work toward mastering what you wish you had done and what you can still do now.

Do not settle for “It cannot be done.” If you desire something and follow the path God has ordained for you; you will either see it manifested or you will change your mind about it or you will change your mind altogether.  Either way, you will discover a peace that passes understanding and live a life fully and completely without regret.

Once you are free of Regrets you will learn to once again be thankful in all things. Your new found attitude of gratitude will emerge and your life will be move forward with great expectations by living in the moment. Not in the past or the future.



703, 2018

Exercises For The Brain

By |March 7th, 2018|Categories: Blog|0 Comments

In the world of information overload, many people tend to struggle with Owl with professorinformation retention. While it is no doubt helpful for us to renew our minds through reading the Bible and other related writings; there are those who admit to struggling  with their memories.

This article is intended to assist those people who are currently experience some sort of memory loss and would like some insight as to how they can recapture that loss and maintain a sense of quality in their thinking as they age.

Our memories are a very precious part of us because they remind us of the good times and the bad times that we have experienced. Not everyone has a memory that is as good as they would like. Sure, we all laugh when we forget what we were going to say or we walk into a room to do something and then have no idea what it is when we get in there. Your memory isn’t something that you want to see weaken so it is important for you to engage in a variety of brain exercises. They will help you to improve your ability in this department.

There are basic memory games where you have to match two like things. You can do this with a deck of cards or you can buy a memory game. Turning over two of them, if they are a match you get to remove them from the pile. If they don’t match you turn them face down again. Then you turn over one more card. The objective is to remember what you see where so you can match up pairs with those cards that have been exposed so far. You can even play such games online by clicking your mouse to show what you want to turn over.

Association is a great way to improve your memory. This type of scenario allows you to connect something new with something that is familiar. For example you can associate a person’s name when you are introduced with something that is familiar to you. Then when you see them again that familiar thing will be triggered by your brain and you will remember their name as well as were you met them. This is a handy tool when you are continually meeting new individuals for business or socially.

Most of us really like some form of music, and so you can use what you are interested in to improve your memory. As you sing along to the songs at home or in the car you would seem to know all of the lyrics right? Now try to write them down on a piece of paper without hearing the song. Changes are that key parts of it such as the chorus will be the most to stand out in your mind. Try to play the song in your mind from start to finish and to write down as may of the lyrics as you can. This is a fun way to improve your memory as well as to discover how much you really do know about the music you listen to.

The key to being successful is to find those types of brain exercises that you find to be challenging and fun at the same time. This way you will be looking forward to doing them each day instead of avoiding them. The more you work at it the more you will see that brain exercises do improve your memory.

This of these strategies as a workout for your mind. There is always room for improvement no matter how old you are or what your recalling level is right now. It is important to remember that after about the age of 30 the mind can start slowing down on a cognitive level. Don’t wait until then to start exercising your brain. Do it at an early age so that you are very on top of things as you do get older.

It can be a challenge to improve our memory with brain exercises. At the same time though it can really be a great deal of fun. Try to fit such activities into your daily schedule for at least 15 minutes. You will be surprised at how much more you remember. That will be a very good feeling for you at any age. The loss of memory can be short term in nature but it can still be frustrating. Give yourself every opportunity to have an exceptional memory that doesn’t forget those things that are important.



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