Ask Dr faye

Ask DrFaye is a weekly advice column where I answer real questions about faith, business, leadership, and personal growth. Each entry comes from the heart—practical, spiritual, and honest. My goal is to give you wisdom you can apply immediately, while pointing you back to the deeper truth of who you are in God. These conversations are about helping you rise, overcome, and thrive.

Ask Dr faye

Question from Yolanda:

I want to start my own business, but I'm afraid I'm too old. I'm in my mid-50s and feel behind. Is it too late?

Answer: Yolanda, it’s never too late to start something great. In fact, your age is your

advantage.

Here’s why: You Bring Experience: Your wisdom, resilience, and life skills are powerful business tools.

Clarity Over Chaos: You likely know your values and boundaries, which is key in business.

Start Small: Test your idea through a side hustle, part-time service, or local offering. Build a Support System: Join entrepreneur groups with women your age — you’re not alone!

Start now. Age isn’t a barrier — it’s a launching pad.

I want to start my own business, but I'm afraid I'm too old. I'm in my mid-50s and feel behind. Is it too late?

Question from Marlon:

I’ve been praying for healing for years, and nothing seems to change. How do I keep believing when nothing happens?

Answer: Marlon, your faith in the waiting is powerful. Healing can be instant or progressive — physically, emotionally, or spiritually. Try this:

Shift the Prayer: Ask not just for healing, but for the wisdom, grace, and clarity in the process.

Declare God’s Word Daily: Speak healing scriptures aloud. God’s Word builds faith (Romans 10:17).

Stay Open to How God Heals: Sometimes healing comes through medicine, community, or revelation.

Connect with a Prayer Partner: Agreement brings power — don’t carry it alone.

Don’t give up. Even delays carry purpose.

Question from Jasmine:

I feel like I’m always giving to others—at work, home, and church. I’m burned out, but I don’t know how to say no. Help!

Answer: Jasmine, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Here’s how to reclaim your balance:

Do a Yes Audit: List your current commitments and evaluate which ones drain or energize you. Practice Graceful No’s: Say, “I’d love to help, but I can’t commit right now,” or “I need to take

a step back to rest.”

Block ‘Me Time’: Schedule non - negotiable self-care just like appointments.

Redefine Worth: You’re valuable because of who you are, not just what you do. Boundaries are holy. Rest is not selfish — it’s spiritual

Question from Devon:

I’m trying to change my life, but my old friends keep pulling me back. Should I distance myself from them?

Answer: Devon, growth often requires separation. Here’s how to honor both your evolution and your history:

Communicate Clearly: Let your friends know you're on a new path, and it's not personal.

Limit Time, Not Love: You can love people without giving them full access to your life. Find New Circles: Seek communities that reflect where you're going, not just where you’ve been.

Pray for Them: Ask God to bless them and to bring divine alignment in both your journeys.

Some friends are for a season, others for a reason. Discern the difference—and move forward in love.

Here we go with the next four entries, Ask DrFaye: Weeks 31–34, continuing in the exact format:

Question from Marcus:

I want to make a big life change—relocating and changing careers, but I’m scared it’s the wrong move. How do I know if it’s God or just me?

Answer: Marcus, transitions can be sacred if you walk through them with wisdom. Here's how to discern the direction:

Pray for Confirmation: God often confirms through peace, wise counsel, and open doors.

Examine the Fruit: Will this move bring growth, health, and purpose—or confusion and chaos?

Test the Waters: If possible, visit the city, explore the field, or start part-time. Follow Peace, Not Pressure: If it’s God, it will stretch you—but it won’t strangle you. Faith and fear sometimes travel together. But peace will always outlast panic.

Question from Sheila:

I feel spiritually dry. I read the Bible and go to church, but I don’t feel anything. How do I reconnect with God?

Answer: Sheila, spiritual dryness isn’t failure—it’s often preparation. Even Jesus had wilderness moments. Try this:

Switch the Routine: Change up your devotional, music, or even the time of day you meet with God.

Journal Your Heart: Don’t just read—respond. Write out your feelings, questions, and prayers.

Be Honest in Prayer: Say, “Lord, I feel distant, but I still believe You’re near.” God honors authenticity.

Serve or Encourage Someone: Sometimes reconnecting happens when we pour out to others.

God hasn’t left—you’re just being invited deeper. Here are your next four entries in the Ask DrFaye series, continuing with Weeks 35–38 in your approved format:

Question from Latasha:

I feel like I keep attracting the same type of unhealthy relationship over and over. What am I doing wrong?

Answer: Latasha, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. Unhealthy patterns often reveal unhealed places. Here’s how to break the cycle:

Pause Before the Pattern Repeats: Take time between relationships to reflect, heal, and grow.

Evaluate the Root: Ask yourself, “What part of me is drawn to what’s familiar—even if it’s harmful?”

Upgrade Your Boundaries: Know your worth and set clear expectations from the start.

Get Support: Therapy, coaching, or spiritual counsel can help shift the lens you see yourself through.

You don’t need to settle. You were made for love that reflects how God sees you—whole, valued, and worthy.

Question from Tyrone:

I’ve been hurt by the church—badly. I still love God, but I don’t trust people in ministry anymore. Can I heal without going back?

Answer: Tyrone, your pain is real—and it matters. Church hurt cuts deep because it comes from people we expected to protect us. Here’s a path forward:

Separate God from People: God didn’t hurt you—imperfect people did. Don’t confuse the two.

Allow Time to Grieve: You’re allowed to feel betrayed. Healing starts when pain is acknowledged.

Find Safe Spiritual Community: Whether online or in small groups, there are still trustworthy believers out there.

Stay Connected to the Word: Don’t let man’s failure rob you of divine relationship. You don’t have to return the same way you left. You can rediscover faith on your own terms—with God’s help.

Question from Denise:

I have a great job and a decent life, but I feel stuck. I keep thinking, “There must be more than this.” What am I missing?

Answer: Denise, what you’re sensing is not failure—it’s a divine nudge. Comfort can quietly choke calling. Here’s what to do:

Clarify What You Crave: Is it more meaning, creativity, leadership, or service? Get specific.

Try Purpose Projects: Volunteer, take a class, or launch a side mission that excites your spirit.

Talk It Out: A coach or mentor can help you unpack the “itch” and form a plan.

Pray for Direction: Ask, “Lord, where are You calling me higher?”

That yearning is holy. You weren’t made to coast—you were made to create impact.

Question from Nathan:

I’m working hard, but doors just won’t seem to open for me. Others are advancing faster. What am I doing wrong?

Answer: Nathan, delay is not denial. God’s timing isn’t based on comparison—it’s based on your preparation. Let’s reframe your season:

Do a Faith Check: Are you operating from obedience or from frustration? Reset your posture.

Focus on Excellence Over Exposure: Master your current season instead of chasing the next.

Bless While You Wait: Celebrate others sincerely—it frees your heart and speeds your own release.

Declare Breakthrough: Speak favor, not frustration, over your life daily.

God’s not ignoring you—He’s incubating something greater than you can see.

Wonderful! Here's the next installment of Ask DrFaye with entries for Weeks 39–42 in your approved format:

Question from Camille:

keep second-guessing myself. Even when I know what to do, I hesitate. How can I build confidence and trust my own voice?

Answer: Camille, your inner voice needs nurturing, not silencing. Self-doubt is often just fear wearing a different outfit. Here's how to rise with boldness:

Acknowledge the Fear, But Act Anyway: Courage isn’t the absence of fear—it’s movement in spite of it.

Start with Small Decisions: Prove to yourself that your voice matters. Build trust in your own wisdom.

Silence the Noise: Limit voices that plant seeds of self-doubt—even well-meaning ones.

Speak Life Over Yourself: Daily affirmations and Scripture can rewire your internal dialogue.

You don’t need permission to be powerful. You already are.

Question from Luis:

My finances are a mess, and I feel ashamed. I don’t know how to start fixing it without feeling overwhelmed. Where do I begin?

Answer: Luis, shame thrives in silence—but freedom begins with one step. Financial wholeness is possible, and here’s how to get there:

Start with Awareness, Not Judgment: Look at your spending without beating yourself up. Awareness is clarity.

Create a Simple Budget: Don’t overcomplicate. Assign every dollar a job—even if it's just “breathe.”

Seek Wise Counsel: A financial coach or online tools can help you build a strategy.

Invite God In: Ask for wisdom and stewardship grace. Proverbs 3:5–6 still applies to your money.

You’re not too far gone. Financial healing is a process—and you’ve already begun.

Question from Tasha:

I lost someone close to me recently. I’m functioning on the outside, but inside I feel numb. Is this normal?

Answer: Tasha, grief wears many masks—numbness is one of them. What you’re feeling is a normal part of loss. Here’s how to walk through it gently:

Allow the Numbness Without Judgment: It’s your body’s way of protecting your heart.

Give Your Grief a Voice: Journal, cry, talk—whatever gives your heart expression.

Create a Ritual of Remembrance: Light a candle, plant something, or make a playlist to honor their memory.

Lean on Support: Don’t grieve alone. Trusted friends, support groups, or a grief counselor can help hold space. You don’t need to “move on.” You’re allowed to move through—with love.

Question from Caleb:

I feel called to do something big, but I don’t feel qualified. I keep thinking, “Why would God choose me?”

Answer: Caleb, the call of God is rarely handed to the “qualified”—it qualifies the called. Here's how to embrace your assignment:

Look at Biblical Examples: Moses stuttered. David was overlooked. Still, God used them mightily.

Say Yes Before You Feel Ready: God fills what you offer in faith. Start where you are.

Write Down the Vision: Habakkuk 2:2 says to make it plain. Your vision deserves clarity.

Surround Yourself with Faith-Filled Voices: You need people who see the God in you, not just the flaws in you.

God chose you on purpose. Walk in it—even if your knees shake.

Absolutely, DrFaye! Let’s complete the Ask DrFaye column through the end of the year, finishing out the final Weeks 43–52 in your approved format. Here are the next ten entries:

Question from Simone:

I feel like I missed my moment. Opportunities came and went, and now I’m stuck wondering if I’ll ever have another chance. Is it too late?

Answer: Simone, grace rewrites the clock. With God, nothing is wasted—not even delay. Here’s how to move forward:

Release Regret: Carrying yesterday’s missed chances will keep you from today’s open doors.

Ask God to Redeem Time: He can restore years the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25).

Start Fresh Where You Are: Take one action step toward what you still desire.

Look for New Seeds, Not Old Seasons: Your new opportunity may look different—but be even greater. It’s not too late. The moment you believe again, the timing shifts in your favor.

Question from Derrick:

I’ve been trying to forgive someone who really betrayed me, but I keep replaying what they did. I want to move on, but I can’t. Help?

Answer: Derrick, forgiveness is a decision and a process. What you're experiencing is normal—but here's how to move forward with power:

Separate the Person from the Pain: Forgiving them doesn’t mean what they did was okay.

Pray for Their Release (Even Through Gritted Teeth): This breaks bitterness off your soul.

Use Your Words: Say aloud, “I forgive them. I release them.” Your heart will catch up with your declaration.

Choose Freedom Daily: When memories resurface, remind yourself you’ve chosen peace.

You deserve healing—even if they never say sorry.

Question from Aaliyah:

I’m successful in business, but my personal life is empty. I feel lonely and disconnected. How can I have both success and fulfillment?

Answer: Aaliyah, true success includes wholeness. Your spirit is calling for alignment—not just accomplishment. Let’s begin:

Reevaluate Your Definition of Success: It’s not just profit—it’s peace, love, and purpose.

Create Space for Connection: Schedule time for real friendships, family, and community.

Speak What You Desire: Life and death are in the power of your tongue (Proverbs 18:21).

Let God Into the Gaps: He’s the only One who can fill the spaces no success can reach.

You don’t have to choose between fulfillment and achievement. You’re worthy of both.

Question from Isaiah:

I’ve been battling depression silently. No one knows because I smile through it, but I’m tired. What can I do?

through it, but I’m tired. What can I do?

Answer: Isaiah, thank you for your courage. Depression doesn’t make you weak—it means you’re human. Let’s take these steps:

Speak Up: Talk to a trusted friend, therapist, or faith leader. You’re not alone.

Prioritize Health Over Hiding: Get outside, move your body, and nourish yourself—these are acts of warfare.

Pray Honestly: Tell God how you feel. He can handle your raw truth.

Seek Professional Help: There’s no shame in counseling or medication. They’re tools, not crutches. The darkness is real—but so is your light. You are needed here.

Question from Priya:

I’m newly married, and we keep arguing over small things. I didn’t expect it to be this hard. Is this normal?

Answer: Priya, adjustment in marriage is normal. You're blending two lives, histories, and expectations. Here's how to ease the tension:

Communicate, Don’t Accuse: Use “I” statements to express how you feel—not to blame.

Learn Each Other’s Love Language: It’s not just about love—it’s about how we give and receive it.

Make Room for Grace: You’re both growing. Perfection isn’t the goal—connection is.

Pray Together: Unity in prayer creates unity in partnership.

Marriage is ministry. And like all ministry—it takes intention, not just emotion.

Question from Reggie:

I want to be a better father, but I didn’t have one growing up. I’m scared I’ll mess it up. How do I lead my kids well?

Answer: Reggie, being present already makes you powerful. Here’s how to father with grace:

Be What You Needed: You don’t have to copy a model—you can become one.

Apologize When You Miss It: Your humility teaches more than perfection ever could.

Create Moments, Not Just Memories: Show up consistently—in small, intentional ways.

Lead Spiritually: Even simple prayers over your children build legacy. You don’t have to be perfect to be impactful. You’re the father your children need.

Question from Naomi:

I lost my job unexpectedly, and I feel like I’ve lost my identity. I don’t know who I am without my title. What now?

Answer: Naomi, your role was what you did—it’s not who you are. Let’s rebuild your sense of self:

Grieve the Loss: It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or confused. Give yourself space to process.

Reconnect with Your Core: Ask, “Who am I without performance?” Journal your values and strengths.

Explore New Possibilities: What dreams were on hold? What passions never had time?

Affirm Your Worth Daily: Say: “I am valuable even in transition. My identity is intact.” When one title ends, another begins. And this one may be even better.

Question from Elijah:

I lost my job unexpectedly, and I feel like I’ve lost my identity. I don’t know who I am without my title. What now?

nswer: Elijah, obedience isn’t a transaction—it’s a trust walk. Here’s how to stay grounded:

Shift from Outcome to Obedience: What if the breakthrough is in you, not around you? Check for Hidden Growth: Look at your character, faith, and resilience—these are wins. Keep Praising Anyway: Praise invites presence—and presence invites breakthrough.

Trust God’s Calendar: He may be preparing something bigger than you prayed for. You didn’t fail—God is just not finished.

Question from Carla (again):

I’m dreading the holidays. I feel disconnected from my family, and being around them only makes it worse. How do I survive this season?

Answer: Carla, the holidays can bring both joy and grief. Here’s how to navigate with care:

Set Emotional Boundaries: Decide in advance what topics or situations you’ll engage with.

Create Your Own Traditions: Joy doesn’t have to come from the crowd—it can be cultivated with intention.

Protect Your Peace: If needed, limit your time or opt for virtual check-ins.

Focus on the Meaning, Not Just the Motions: Reconnect with what the season really represents: love, hope, and peace.

You’re not alone. Honor your peace, even if it means celebrating differently.

Question from Faith:

As the year ends, I feel anxious. I didn’t accomplish what I set out to do. How do I enter the new year without shame?

Answer: Faith, you don’t need perfection to be proud. Reflection isn’t for regret—it’s for revelation. Let’s close the year with grace:

List What You DID Do: Even small wins count. You showed up, tried, learned, endured.

Release the Guilt: God’s mercies are new every morning—and every year.

Set Rhythms, Not Just Resolutions: Create daily and weekly habits that align with who you’re becoming.

Speak a New Declaration: “This is my comeback year. I enter it with clarity, courage, and peace.”

You’re not behind—you’re being refined. The next chapter is waiting.

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Question from Yolanda:

I want to start my own business, but I'm afraid I'm too old. I'm in my mid-50s and feel behind. Is it too late?

Answer: Yolanda, it’s never too late to start something great. In fact, your age is your

advantage.

Here’s why: You Bring Experience: Your wisdom, resilience, and life skills are powerful business tools.

Clarity Over Chaos: You likely know your values and boundaries, which is key in business.

Start Small: Test your idea through a side hustle, part-time service, or local offering.

Build a Support System: Join entrepreneur groups with women your age — you’re not alone!

Start now. Age isn’t a barrier — it’s a launching pad.

I want to start my own business, but I'm afraid I'm too old. I'm in my mid-50s and feel behind. Is it too late?

Question from Marlon:

I’ve been praying for healing for years, and nothing seems to change. How do I keep believing when nothing happens?

Answer: Marlon, your faith in the waiting is powerful. Healing can be instant or

progressive — physically, emotionally, or spiritually. Try this:

Shift the Prayer: Ask not just for healing, but for the wisdom, grace, and clarity in the process.

Declare God’s Word Daily: Speak healing scriptures aloud. God’s Word builds faith (Romans 10:17).

Stay Open to How God Heals: Sometimes healing comes through medicine, community, or revelation.

Connect with a Prayer Partner: Agreement brings power — don’t carry it alone.

Don’t give up. Even delays carry purpose.

Question from Jasmine:

I feel like I’m always giving to others—at work, home, and church. I’m burned out, but I don’t know how to say no. Help!

Answer: Jasmine, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Here’s how to reclaim your balance:

Do a Yes Audit: List your current commitments and evaluate which ones drain or energize you. Practice Graceful No’s: Say, “I’d love to help, but I can’t commit right now,” or “I need to take

a step back to rest.”

Block ‘Me Time’: Schedule non - negotiable self-care just like appointments.

Redefine Worth: You’re valuable because of

who you are, not just what you do. Boundaries are holy. Rest is not selfish — it’s spiritual

Question from Devon:

I’m trying to change my life, but my old friends keep pulling me back. Should I distance myself from them?

Answer: Devon, growth often requires separation. Here’s how to honor both your evolution and your history:

Communicate Clearly: Let your friends know you're on a new path, and it's not personal.

Limit Time, Not Love: You can love people without giving them full access to your life.

Find New Circles: Seek communities that reflect where you're going, not just where you’ve been.

Pray for Them: Ask God to bless them and to bring divine alignment in both your journeys.

Some friends are for a season, others for a reason. Discern the difference—and move forward in love.

Here we go with the next four entries, Ask DrFaye: Weeks 31–34, continuing in the exact format:

Question from Marcus:

I want to make a big life change—relocating and changing careers, but I’m scared it’s the wrong move. How do I know if it’s God or just me?

Answer: Marcus, transitions can be sacred if you walk through them with wisdom. Here's how to discern the direction:

Pray for Confirmation: God often confirms through peace, wise counsel, and open doors.

Examine the Fruit: Will this move bring growth, health, and purpose—or confusion and chaos?

Test the Waters: If possible, visit the city, explore the field, or start part-time.

Follow Peace, Not Pressure: If it’s God, it will stretch you—but it won’t strangle you.

Faith and fear sometimes travel together. But peace will always outlast panic.

Question from Sheila:

I feel spiritually dry. I read the Bible and go to church, but I don’t feel anything. How do I reconnect with God?

Answer: Sheila, spiritual dryness isn’t failure—it’s often preparation. Even Jesus had wilderness moments. Try this:

Switch the Routine: Change up your devotional, music, or even the time of day you meet with God.

Journal Your Heart: Don’t just read—respond. Write out your feelings, questions, and prayers.

Be Honest in Prayer: Say, “Lord, I feel distant, but I still believe You’re near.” God honors authenticity.

Serve or Encourage Someone: Sometimes reconnecting happens when we pour out to others.

God hasn’t left—you’re just being invited deeper.

Here are your next four entries in the Ask DrFaye series, continuing with Weeks 35–38 in your approved format:

Question from Latasha:

I feel like I keep attracting the same type of unhealthy relationship over and over. What am I doing wrong?

Answer: Latasha, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. Unhealthy patterns often reveal unhealed places. Here’s how to break the cycle:

Pause Before the Pattern Repeats: Take time between relationships to reflect, heal, and grow.

Evaluate the Root: Ask yourself, “What part of me is drawn to what’s familiar—even if it’s harmful?”

Upgrade Your Boundaries: Know your worth and set clear expectations from the start.

Get Support: Therapy, coaching, or spiritual counsel can help shift the lens you see yourself through.

You don’t need to settle. You were made for love that reflects how God sees you—whole, valued, and worthy.

Question from Tyrone:

I’ve been hurt by the church—badly. I still love God, but I don’t trust people in ministry anymore. Can I heal without going back?

Answer: Tyrone, your pain is real—and it matters. Church hurt cuts deep because it comes from people we expected to protect us. Here’s a path forward:

Separate God from People: God didn’t hurt you—imperfect people did. Don’t confuse the two.

Allow Time to Grieve: You’re allowed to feel betrayed. Healing starts when pain is acknowledged.

Find Safe Spiritual Community: Whether online or in small groups, there are still trustworthy believers out there.

Stay Connected to the Word: Don’t let man’s failure rob you of divine relationship.

You don’t have to return the same way you left. You can rediscover faith on your own terms—with God’s help.

Question from Denise:

I have a great job and a decent life, but I feel stuck. I keep thinking, “There must be more than this.” What am I missing?

Answer: Denise, what you’re sensing is not failure—it’s a divine nudge. Comfort can quietly choke calling. Here’s what to do:

Clarify What You Crave: Is it more meaning, creativity, leadership, or service? Get specific.

Try Purpose Projects: Volunteer, take a class, or launch a side mission that excites your spirit.

Talk It Out: A coach or mentor can help you unpack the “itch” and form a plan.

Pray for Direction: Ask, “Lord, where are You calling me higher?”

That yearning is holy. You weren’t made to coast—you were made to create impact.

Question from Nathan:

I’m working hard, but doors just won’t seem to open for me. Others are advancing faster. What am I doing wrong?

Answer: Nathan, delay is not denial. God’s timing isn’t based on comparison—it’s based on your preparation. Let’s reframe your season:

Do a Faith Check: Are you operating from obedience or from frustration? Reset your posture.

Focus on Excellence Over Exposure: Master your current season instead of chasing the next.

Bless While You Wait: Celebrate others sincerely—it frees your heart and speeds your own release.

Declare Breakthrough: Speak favor, not frustration, over your life daily.

God’s not ignoring you—He’s incubating something greater than you can see.

Wonderful! Here's the next installment of Ask DrFaye with entries for Weeks 39–42 in your approved format:

Question from Camille:

keep second-guessing myself. Even when I know what to do, I hesitate. How can I build confidence and trust my own voice?

Answer: Camille, your inner voice needs nurturing, not silencing. Self-doubt is often just fear wearing a different outfit. Here's how to rise with boldness:

Acknowledge the Fear, But Act Anyway: Courage isn’t the absence of fear—it’s movement in spite of it.

Start with Small Decisions: Prove to yourself that your voice matters. Build trust in your own wisdom.

Silence the Noise: Limit voices that plant seeds of self-doubt—even well-meaning ones.

Speak Life Over Yourself: Daily affirmations and Scripture can rewire your internal dialogue.

You don’t need permission to be powerful. You already are.

Question from Luis:

My finances are a mess, and I feel ashamed. I don’t know how to start fixing it without feeling overwhelmed. Where do I begin?

Answer: Luis, shame thrives in silence—but freedom begins with one step. Financial wholeness is possible, and here’s how to get there:

Start with Awareness, Not Judgment: Look at your spending without beating yourself up. Awareness is clarity.

Create a Simple Budget: Don’t overcomplicate. Assign every dollar a job—even if it's just “breathe.”

Seek Wise Counsel: A financial coach or online tools can help you build a strategy.

Invite God In: Ask for wisdom and stewardship grace. Proverbs 3:5–6 still applies to your money.

You’re not too far gone. Financial healing is a process—and you’ve already begun.

Question from Tasha:

I lost someone close to me recently. I’m functioning on the outside, but inside I feel numb. Is this normal?

Answer: Tasha, grief wears many masks—numbness is one of them. What you’re feeling is a normal part of loss. Here’s how to walk through it gently:

Allow the Numbness Without Judgment: It’s your body’s way of protecting your heart.

Give Your Grief a Voice: Journal, cry, talk—whatever gives your heart expression.

Create a Ritual of Remembrance: Light a candle, plant something, or make a playlist to honor their memory.

Lean on Support: Don’t grieve alone. Trusted friends, support groups, or a grief counselor can help hold space.

You don’t need to “move on.” You’re allowed to move through—with love.

Question from Caleb:

I feel called to do something big, but I don’t feel qualified. I keep thinking, “Why would God choose me?”

Answer: Caleb, the call of God is rarely handed to the “qualified”—it qualifies the called. Here's how to embrace your assignment:

Look at Biblical Examples: Moses stuttered. David was overlooked. Still, God used them mightily.

Say Yes Before You Feel Ready: God fills what you offer in faith. Start where you are.

Write Down the Vision: Habakkuk 2:2 says to make it plain. Your vision deserves clarity.

Surround Yourself with Faith-Filled Voices: You need people who see the God in you, not just the flaws in you.

God chose you on purpose. Walk in it—even if your knees shake.

Absolutely, DrFaye! Let’s complete the Ask DrFaye column through the end of the year, finishing out the final Weeks 43–52 in your approved format. Here are the next ten entries:

Question from Simone:

I feel like I missed my moment. Opportunities came and went, and now I’m stuck wondering if I’ll ever have another chance. Is it too late?

Answer: Simone, grace rewrites the clock. With God, nothing is wasted—not even delay. Here’s how to move forward:

Release Regret: Carrying yesterday’s missed chances will keep you from today’s open doors.

Ask God to Redeem Time: He can restore years the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25).

Start Fresh Where You Are: Take one action step toward what you still desire.

Look for New Seeds, Not Old Seasons: Your new opportunity may look different—but be even greater.

It’s not too late. The moment you believe again, the timing shifts in your favor.

Question from Derrick:

I’ve been trying to forgive someone who really betrayed me, but I keep replaying what they did. I want to move on, but I can’t. Help?

Answer: Derrick, forgiveness is a decision and a process. What you're experiencing is normal—but here's how to move forward with power:

Separate the Person from the Pain: Forgiving them doesn’t mean what they did was okay.

Pray for Their Release (Even Through Gritted Teeth): This breaks bitterness off your soul.

Use Your Words: Say aloud, “I forgive them. I release them.” Your heart will catch up with your declaration.

Choose Freedom Daily: When memories resurface, remind yourself you’ve chosen peace.

You deserve healing—even if they never say sorry.

Question from Aaliyah:

I’m successful in business, but my personal life is empty. I feel lonely and disconnected. How can I have both success and fulfillment?

Answer: Aaliyah, true success includes wholeness. Your spirit is calling for alignment—not just accomplishment. Let’s begin:

Reevaluate Your Definition of Success: It’s not just profit—it’s peace, love, and purpose.

Create Space for Connection: Schedule time for real friendships, family, and community.

Speak What You Desire: Life and death are in the power of your tongue (Proverbs 18:21).

Let God Into the Gaps: He’s the only One who can fill the spaces no success can reach.

You don’t have to choose between fulfillment and achievement. You’re worthy of both.

Question from Isaiah:

I’ve been battling depression silently. No one knows because I smile through it, but I’m tired. What can I do?

through it, but I’m tired. What can I do?

Answer: Isaiah, thank you for your courage. Depression doesn’t make you weak—it means you’re human. Let’s take these steps:

Speak Up: Talk to a trusted friend, therapist, or faith leader. You’re not alone.

Prioritize Health Over Hiding: Get outside, move your body, and nourish yourself—these are acts of warfare.

Pray Honestly: Tell God how you feel. He can handle your raw truth.

Seek Professional Help: There’s no shame in counseling or medication. They’re tools, not crutches.

The darkness is real—but so is your light. You are needed here.

Question from Priya:

I’m newly married, and we keep arguing over small things. I didn’t expect it to be this hard. Is this normal?

Answer: Priya, adjustment in marriage is normal. You're blending two lives, histories, and expectations. Here's how to ease the tension:

Communicate, Don’t Accuse: Use “I” statements to express how you feel—not to blame.

Learn Each Other’s Love Language: It’s not just about love—it’s about how we give and receive it.

Make Room for Grace: You’re both growing. Perfection isn’t the goal—connection is.

Pray Together: Unity in prayer creates unity in partnership.

Marriage is ministry. And like all ministry—it takes intention, not just emotion.

Question from Reggie:

I want to be a better father, but I didn’t have one growing up. I’m scared I’ll mess it up. How do I lead my kids well?

Answer: Reggie, being present already makes you powerful. Here’s how to father with grace:

Be What You Needed: You don’t have to copy a model—you can become one.

Apologize When You Miss It: Your humility teaches more than perfection ever could.

Create Moments, Not Just Memories: Show up consistently—in small, intentional ways.

Lead Spiritually: Even simple prayers over your children build legacy.

You don’t have to be perfect to be impactful. You’re the father your children need.

Question from Naomi:

I lost my job unexpectedly, and I feel like I’ve lost my identity. I don’t know who I am without my title. What now?

Answer: Naomi, your role was what you did—it’s not who you are. Let’s rebuild your sense of self:

Grieve the Loss: It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or confused. Give yourself space to process.

Reconnect with Your Core: Ask, “Who am I without performance?” Journal your values and strengths.

Explore New Possibilities: What dreams were on hold? What passions never had time?

Affirm Your Worth Daily: Say: “I am valuable even in transition. My identity is intact.”

When one title ends, another begins. And this one may be even better.

Question from Elijah:

I lost my job unexpectedly, and I feel like I’ve lost my identity. I don’t know who I am without my title. What now?

Answer: Elijah, obedience isn’t a transaction—it’s a trust walk. Here’s how to stay grounded:

Shift from Outcome to Obedience: What if the breakthrough is in you, not around you?

Check for Hidden Growth: Look at your character, faith, and resilience—these are wins.

Keep Praising Anyway: Praise invites presence—and presence invites breakthrough.

Trust God’s Calendar: He may be preparing something bigger than you prayed for.

You didn’t fail—God is just not finished.

Question from Carla (again):

I’m dreading the holidays. I feel disconnected from my family, and being around them only makes it worse. How do I survive this season?

Answer: Carla, the holidays can bring both joy and grief. Here’s how to navigate with care:

Set Emotional Boundaries: Decide in advance what topics or situations you’ll engage with.

Create Your Own Traditions: Joy doesn’t have to come from the crowd—it can be cultivated with intention.

Protect Your Peace: If needed, limit your time or opt for virtual check-ins.

Focus on the Meaning, Not Just the Motions: Reconnect with what the season really represents: love, hope, and peace.

You’re not alone. Honor your peace, even if it means celebrating differently.

Question from Faith:

As the year ends, I feel anxious. I didn’t accomplish what I set out to do. How do I enter the new year without shame?

Answer: Faith, you don’t need perfection to be proud. Reflection isn’t for regret—it’s for revelation. Let’s close the year with grace:

List What You DID Do: Even small wins count. You showed up, tried, learned, endured.

Release the Guilt: God’s mercies are new every morning—and every year.

Set Rhythms, Not Just Resolutions: Create daily and weekly habits that align with who you’re becoming.

Speak a New Declaration: “This is my comeback year. I enter it with clarity, courage, and peace.”

You’re not behind—you’re being refined. The next chapter is waiting.

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